JeFFFaye: Forgive and forget?

The title says it all.. How many times you are being offended by the people around you and also strangers?

Countless isn't, it? I know it's hard to forgive if the matter is big or very heart-breaking, let alone forgetting it.

Somebody told me her story about her bestie being a backstabber and it hurt her deeply that she couldn't look her in the eye. It's so sad their friendship turn out the other way round. But I advised her to learn to forgive and forget tho' it's not easy I said.

Been there before...

What will you do to the person who

~> marred your parents marriage? and

~> made your family fell apart? and

~> made you believe he loved your mom to death

~> acted like an angel and made people believe he was really mourning her death?

~> never showed up or clean her cemetery on her anniversaries? and

~> left leaving the deep scar stayed in your family?

I forgave him. :) Like I said before, it wasn't easy.

It took me years to forgive him and when I forgave him, I feel like my burden has been lifted and I felt a bit ease. My new struggles are mourning my beloved mum's death and praised the LORD above, I could let her go to Rest In Peace.

Now, every time I met him we would chat as if NOTHING ever happened to us in the past. I forgave him cos I know it's all GOD's plan and he's only full-filling his duty as a weak human being. Let GOD judge him and pay for what he did.

Even his new wife and children could talk to me like we had nothing to be mad at. Life is about making decisions. I chose to let go of my hatred because it has been eating me since my childhood time. I know it left a deep scar in my family lives but I guess some lessons we learn it the hard way. I know GOD is preparing us for something bigger and obstacles came to our lives not to destruct us but to instruct us.

No matter how deep the cut is, it all depends on yourselves either to forgive or not. I've watched the destructions and I don't want to make the mistakes that other people made.

~ Life is an accumulated of experiences...

Learning to let go is knowing how to confront it~

I'm still learning to confront it, how about you?

John 3:16

In the city of Chicago, one cold, dark night, a blizzard was setting in. A little boy was selling newspapers on the corner, the people were in and out of the cold. The little boy was so cold that he wasn't trying to sell many papers. He walked up to a policeman and said, "Mister, you wouldn't happen to know where a poor boy could find a warm place to sleep tonight would you? You see, I sleep in a box up around the corner there and down the alley and it's awful cold in there for tonight. Sure would be nice to have a warm place to stay," The policeman looked down at the little boy and said, "you go down the street to that big white house and you knock on the door. When they come out the door you just say John 3:16, and they will let you in."

So he did. He walked up the steps and knocked on the door, and a lady answered. He looked up and said, "John 3:16." The lady said, "Come on in, Son." She took him in and she sat him down in a split bottom rocker in front of a great big old fireplace, and she went off. The boy sat there for a while and thought to himself: John 3:16....I don't understand it, but it sure makes a cold boy warm.

Later she came back and asked him "Are you hungry?" He said, "Well, just a little. I haven't eaten in a couple of days, and I guess I could stand a little bit of food," The lady took him in the kitchen and sat him down to a table full of wonderful food. He ate and ate until he couldn't eat any more. Then he thought to himself: John 3:16... Boy, I sure don't understand it but it sure makes a hungry boy full.

She took him upstairs to a bathroom to a huge bathtub filled with warm water, and he sat there and soaked for a while. As he soaked, he thought to himself: John 3:16... I sure don't understand it, but it sure makes a dirty boy clean. You know, I've not had a bath, a real bath, in my whole life. The only bath I ever had was when I stood in front of that big old fire hydrant as they flushed it out.

The lady came in and got him. She took him to a room, tucked him into a big old feather bed, pulled the covers up around his neck, kissed him goodnight and turned out the lights. As he lay in the darkness and looked out the window at the snow coming down on that cold night, he thought to himself: John 3:16... I don't understand it but it sure makes a tired boy rested.

The next morning the lady came back up and took him down again to that same big table full of food. After he ate, she took him back to that same big old split bottom rocker in front of the fireplace and picked up a big old Bible. She sat down in front of him and looked into his young face. "Do you understand John 3:16?" she asked gently. He replied, "No, Ma'am, I don't. The first time I ever heard it was last night when the policeman told me to use it,"

She opened the Bible to John 3:16 and began to explain to him about Jesus. Right there, in front of that big old fireplace, he gave his heart and life to Jesus.
He sat there and thought: John 3:16. .. .. I don't understand it, but it sure makes a lost boy feel safe. You know, I have to confess I don't understand it either, how God was willing to send His Son to die for me, and how Jesus would agree to do such a thing. I don't understand the agony of the Father and every angel in heaven as they watched Jesus suffer and die. I don't understand the intense love for ME that kept Jesus on the cross till the end. I don't understand it, but it sure does make life worth living. John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. If you aren't ashamed to do this, please follow the directions. Jesus said, "If you are ashamed of me, I will be ashamed of you before my Father."

I do Love God. He is my source of existence. He keeps me functioning each and every day. Phil 4:13

6 piece of mind(s):

sestles said...: April 15, 2011 1:22 AM
GBU! ;)
HoneyBUZZin said...: May 1, 2011 1:29 PM
Time heals.....forgiving is the best thing we can do to heal ourselves. Take Care! GBU
IsaiahEzra said...: May 7, 2011 11:27 PM
sestles, GBU too.

honeybuzzin, couldn't argue with you more. I did forgive him ;) it 's worth it.
Belle Edwin said...: June 7, 2011 1:28 PM
owh..forgive maybe easy but forgetting would be such a hard task...apa2 betul..nobody is perfect..glad to know u forgave him already..
Uncle Lee said...: June 16, 2011 12:22 AM
Hi Isaiah, to err is human. To forgive divine.
Life is never a straight road. There'll always be corners, bends, pot holes.....
You just take it easy, live your life as how you want it to be.
Best regards, keep a song in your heart.
Lee.
IsaiahEzra said...: June 18, 2011 11:56 PM
Hye Sangai! @Belle, it's the only option I have in order to move on as a human being who learn from the past. :)
Forgetting is quiet a task but I'll just make a reminder for myself and managing it is also hard because U might feel the grudge but I managed.

Uncle Lee, agree with U.

What U thought is just a spec might be a whole wide world for other people. What U thought is just an accident for being clumsy might be a war in other people's life.

So, let bygones be bygones.

JeFFFaye

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